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How to approach a Geeky / Nerdy Girl

Updated: Feb 26

How to approach a geeky girl

Do you like geeky / nerdy girls but you are not sure how to approach her or you have approach anxiety? You don't know what to talk with a geeky girl or how to carry yourself? And not to mention how to run a date, pull a geeky girl home and have a pssionate sex with her?

This post is for all guys who are into Geeky / Nerdy girls.

First you need to acknovledge that majority of the nerdy / geeky girls are shy or introverts. They will act coy and might be a little cold in beggining. It doesn't mean these are their character traits by any means. It's just a behaviour caused by their lack of social skills and experience, and not your lack of game.

Geeky girls won't make any moves and you will have to do pretty much all the pushing (plowing forward) towards a close (smash) yourself. They won't make it any easier for you. Sometimes when I look back in my rich sexual past, on many ocasions it was waaaaaay easier to approach, seduce and pull super hot, pornstar grade girls than some geeky girls. It's just a funny fact. Anyways as your game progresses and you become experienced you should be able to adapt and recalibrate yourself and your approach, on spot in any chalenging situation with girls.

I will explain how to pull nerdy girls from start to finish.

How to approach nerdy girls


Make sure your initial approach is very strong, direct with strong eye contact and body language and high confidence. Note that you will have to add up energy and confidence for the geeky girls lack of confidence and social skills.

While driving my car, I saw this nerdy girl waiting for bus at a bus station. She had a nerdy face but super slim, banging body with fit legs and some C cup perky tities. Was enough to capture my attention.

I literally stopped my car in a buss lane on front of her, exited my car and I approached her with smile and strong eye contact and said: " Hi, I was driving, saw you and I think you are absolutely gorgeous. You have a killer legs. I like your dress and and sandals, they fit you well".

Initially she gave me a frosty response but she giggled so I knew I need to plow forward. I was talking monologue first 40 seconds and then she engaged. (The key is to keep talking confidently and with conviction until you reach a hook point. You must not allow an ankward silence to happen!)

Shy introvert girls will be amazed and amused by your ballsy approach and confidence and naturally intrigued. The reason is because every girl wants a partner with traits she doesn't possess or lacks massively.

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After some random 2 min chit-chat I asked her for a number and handed her my phone so that she can type it herself. While she was typing I grabed gently her lower back with my hand while looking in the phone screen (Andreas Ardent signature move). 10 sec after she gave me her number a bus came and started to honk behing my car, stopped in a bus lane. I told her: "I have to go, where are you going?". It turned out she was going to downtown a place close to where I lived. I told her: "I go in the same direction. Jump in!". She was hesitant for a moment and replied "But, I don't know you." I turned arround and came back to her handshaked and replied to her "My name is Andreas. Now you know me. Lets go" and she entered my car.

I launched my car to free bus station for the bus waiting behind me.

This all happened in less then 3 minites in front of bunch of people in a bussy bus station.

On our way to downtown in my car she told me she is studying banking and finance and that crunching numbers was always her passion. Apparently she won few math contests in high school and now wanted to enter the world of corporate banking.

We were both bussy for an instant date but I guess a 20 min "car date" can count like an instant date. We agreed to meet in the following day and specified the place and time.

I drove her to the point, hugged and kissed her before she exited my car. I continued driving to my home.


Because we allready aggreed about place and time there was no need to do this over the text. I just texted her next day to confirm the time.

(If you are not sure how to text a girl, how to invite her on a date, please do yourself a big favour and read the chapter When and How to Text a Girl from my eBook SMASH From Zero to Hero in order not to make one of the biggest mistakes guys make when texting girls and ruin your chances for a date or a certain smash)


Next day we went to a lounge bar close to my place and both ordered some non alcoholic cocktail. We spent there about 30 min talking about some random stuff. I was cuddling her the whole time and kissed her gently once. I noticed she enjoys and temperature was high and decided it is a time to go to my place.

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How to approach a geeky girl


I told her "Lets go to my place to spend some time together and maybe watch some movie". She said "ok". I payed the bill and we bounced to my place.

(It is important that you keep momentum and conversation fluid and not allow an ankward silence. If ankward silence occurs, nerdy girl will give you more resistance once you are back at your place.)


At my place we sat comfortably in my corner sofa and started watching some animated movie: Alita Battle Angel. She wanted to watch this particular movie. I served us some Ice Cream. We were cuddling gently while watching the movie. Somewhere in the middle of the movie we started french kissing passionately. I knew it's time to get to the point. I undressed her slowely while kissing her. At one point she stopped me from removing her panties. Since I was already all over her I knew she just needs more time. I overcame it and started fingering her.

(If a nerdy girl gives you last minute resistance make sure to read my eBook SMASH From Zero to Hero in order to understand how to prevent this and easily overcome it when it happens. Learn how to do Foreplay and How to transition from foreplay to sex)


After I ate her pussy, my D was already errected and I took her head gently and guided her close to my D.

She gave me a delightful BJ.

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How to ask a Girl to give you Head)

What I learned from many years in the game so far is that female bj skill level is not corelated with girls looks, confidence or even age or experience. Either they do it right or not.

We started having passionate sex. We changed 2 positions and I gave her a moaning orgasm.

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I wasn't really blown away by this girl overall because I just have plethora of options with women due to my skill and experience so I decided to Smash and Dash 😊.

However if you like a girl, you two are a good match, you see a long term relationship perspective and you decide to make a girl your long term girlfriend you will have to display some vulnerability (to start oppening up) to a girl in layers in order to establish a deep connection with a girl and make her fall in love with you. Note that this will also make her loyal in long term relationship.

This is also where many inexperienced men fail misersbly which leads to harsh brakeups and expensive divorces only few years in the downstream.

(To prevent this from happening, make her fall in love and stay loyal in a long term relationship, read and apply the following chapters of my eBook SMASH From Zero to Hero -Vulnerability (perfectly imperfect man) and how to establish deep connection with a girl

-How to get her addicted to you and fiercely loyal

-Maintaining the relationship

All of this will help you tremendously in your long term relationahip.)

In this post I have included everything you will need to successfully approach, pickup, seduce, get laid and have a long term relationship with a Nerdy / Geeky girls.

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